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Put Your Health First, Mama: An Honest Conversation About Stress During Pregnancy.

Let’s talk about stress during pregnancy.

Don’t worry, I’m not going to launch into a post about all the ways your stress can harm your baby or why you need to stop stressing about stress. Those types of posts are not entirely accurate and not very helpful. Instead, I want to shift the way you think about stress during pregnancy.

So take a deep breath and repeat after me: It’s not about my baby. It’s about me.

I know, I know. That’s really hard. During pregnancy, it’s only natural that we focus on our baby and how our everyday life affects her development. We feel the weight of responsibility for growing and nurturing that tiny, delicate, helpless human. And indeed, that’s the cultural message we are fed the moment that we see that positive pregnancy test — The only thing that matters in pregnancy is the baby . Take care of the baby.

Yet here’s a little secret: Nature has already prioritized baby.

A developing baby will get she needs. But she’ll take it from your body. Our sweet little, helpless baby essentially hijacks our bodies, our minds, and our very existence during pregnancy because that is the compromise nature has wrought (and, in a way, the very essence of motherhood.)


Here’s a little secret: Nature has already prioritized baby.



So here’s another message to help shift your thinking: Take care of yourself, mama



Stress management = your healthiest pregnancy

A good comparison for the my health vs. my baby’s health priority paradox is prenatal nutrition.  Similar to how we think about stress we often think “how does my diet affect my baby?” But, again, here is where nature has prioritized baby. For example, baby is skilled at getting all the calcium she needs to build her bones.  But if you don’t have enough calcium in your diet she’s going to start pulling it from your bones. The extra calcium in your prenatal diet is about protecting your body.

And just like you need to protect your body by making sure your nutritional needs are met during pregnancy, you need to protect your brain and your health by limiting the effects of stress.


For whom does your stress levels actually matter? For you.

Stress and stress management during pregnancy should be considered a maternal health issue.


Decades of research continues to show a clear link between stress and health. Stress disrupts sleep, runs down the immune system and can wreak havoc on mental well being. It is not in all your head. (That may be where stress often starts but not where it stays.)

Your immune system and your sleep patterns are already sub-par because you are pregnant. Managing stress can help with both. Your mental health and emotional state is already on edge because your hormones are doing loopty loops to prioritize baby. Give your brain some space. Stress management can also help you toward your specific pregnancy, labor, and birth goals–from pain relief in labor to fighting for every extra week of your high-risk pregnancy.

It all starts with your health.


Where to start…

Fill your stress-relief toolkit with tools that match your needs. Assess the stressors in your life and clear out as many of them out as possible. Clear your mind through meditation and mindfulness, prenatal yoga, or just by taking a long walk or talking with a friend. o keep your head clear. How you choose to manage stress is personal. At the end of the day, you know yourself best and the stressors in your life.

Breathe. Listen to your body.

Taking care of your own health is taking care of your baby.

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Molly Dickens, PhD

About Molly

Molly has her PhD in Physiology and spent over a decade as an academic research scientist slightly obsessed with the colliding worlds of brain science, hormones, stress and the reproductive system. Nowadays she heads up Content and Community at Bloomlife and edits Preg U. Science is still her jam and she can't help but continue to dive into the research world to find interesting bits about pregnancy and parenting.


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